What if your daughter isn’t lacking confidence at all... she’s just exhausted from pretending she has it?
Today I’m talking about something I’m seeing everywhere in preteen girls. Confidence fatigue. Girls who look fine on the outside but feel overwhelmed on the inside. Girls who have learned to perform confidence instead of experiencing it.
They feel pressure to look confident in photos, to seem unfazed in class, to act casual about their achievements. And underneath that mask is a quiet panic. A fear of being the only one who struggles. A belief that everyone else is coping better than they are.
In this audio, I explore what happens when confidence becomes a performance rather than a feeling. I talk about girls who apologise for needing reassurance and who believe something is wrong with them simply because they cannot keep up the act.
But what if confidence is not about being fearless? What if real confidence is the courage to say this is hard, I need help, I am unsure. Because true resilience begins when girls feel safe enough to stop pretending.
And perhaps the most powerful thing we can do is model this ourselves. Showing our daughters that being human is not a flaw. That confidence does not come from having it all together. It comes from being together in the mess.
Have a listen and take a moment to breathe with me.
